Central London Therapies

Frances Field - Psychoanalytical psychotherapist and counsellor in Central London W1 and SE1


The link between feelings, beliefs and behaviours

Your symptoms are a reflection of your individual life experience and so are unique to you. But here are some illustrations of the feelings, beliefs and behaviours commonly associated with certain issues…

Depression and Anxiety
You might feel: sad, hopeless, afraid, overwhelmed
You might believe: "I am not good enough," "I will never be happy," "The future is bleak."
This could lead to: withdrawing from social activities, avoiding responsibilities, changes in sleeping or eating patterns.

Low Self-Esteem
You might feel: inadequate, ashamed, self-doubt, loneliness.
You might believe "I am unworthy," "I don't deserve love or success," "Others are better than me."
This could lead to: avoiding challenges, seeking excessive reassurance, over-apologising, or not being assertive.

Relationship Problems
You might feel: lonely, stuck, resentful, anxious, fearful of being abandoned.

You might believe: "I am unlovable," "People will leave me," "I need others to be happy."
This could lead to: clinginess, jealousy, going out of your way to avoid conflict, toxic relationship patterns.

Bereavement and Loss
You might feel: grief, sadness, anger, confusion.
You might believe: "Life is unfair," "I should have done more," "I will never feel normal again."
This could lead to: withdrawing from social activities and friends, engaging in rituals to remember the lost one, finding it difficult to move on.

Trauma
You might feel: fearful, angry, helpless, shame.
You might believe: "I am damaged," "The world is unsafe," "I can't trust anyone."
This could lead to: doing things to avoid being reminded of the trauma, hyper-vigilance, self-destructive behaviour, feeling emotionally numb.

Psychosis
You might feel: confused, paranoid, afraid, isolated.
You might believe: "I am under threat," "Others can read my mind," "I’m being controlled."
This could lead to: you withdrawing from reality, erratic behaviour, finding it hard to maintain relationships, neglecting your self-care.

Issues with sexuality
You might feel: confused, ashamed, fearful, joyful if you have a sense of acceptance,
You might believe: "I’m wrong for feeling this way," "I will be rejected," "I must conform to what society sees as ‘normal’.’’
This could lead to: you hiding your sexuality, risky sexual behaviours, seeking out people and places that affirm your sense of identity.

Issues with spirituality
You might feel: confused, hopeful, despairing, peaceful.
You might believe: "I am disconnected from something greater," "Life has no meaning," "This faith no longer makes sense.’’

This could lead to: you either seeking out spiritual practices or withdrawing from them, a sense of isolation, questioning, confusion.


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